Are You Ok???

I'm getting really annoyed with this question! Everyone keeps asking me this, with this tone like they're preparing for me to have a nervous breakdown, start crying, and freak out, while spewing everything that's wrong in my life.

If I had time to tear myself away from my work to engage in a discussion about this, my first question would be, Why? Do I look like something's wrong?

It's the end of the school year, there are deadlines, and because I effed off this term, (and i'm not alone in this), trying to finish everything up in a few days is obviously going to require some hardcore discipline.

I know what I have to do and so I'm getting it done, but this question, argh! I can understand people wanting to check up on me, I think "Hey, How's everything going?" would be more suitable. Then I wouldn't get so defensive and annoyed. Because really, everything is not Ok. If it were, I would be sleeping more than 4 hours a day, eating actual home cooked food, and going out to play with friends once and awhile.

I have one best friend who lives far away, who I spend hours a night talking to before falling asleep, and bless him for wanting to look out, but the more I tell him about all the work I have to do each day (to justify not talking to him at all for a week), the more I get "I'm here for you, whenever you need me, blalala" :| School is one thing I gotta do on my own.

What I need is someone to feed me, make my bed, do my laundry, and not distract me with stupid questions. Its those little things that will make life easier.

So to everyone out there who sees a stressed out grad student, just offer them a coffee (or in my case a tea) and stay out of their way.

We're not always this grumpy and miserable. :)